BEYOND EXPECTATIONS

“I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path.” ~Dalai Lama

At the heart of the ego are expectations which we learned throughout life and now identify as our own…we generally do not realize we have downloaded expectations designed to motivate our social behavior so we will conform to our environment…and these expectations become the primary source of our self image and role playing… when these expectations are not met they can become tyrannical leading to severe guilt and despair…such painful feelings often seek some form of release or escape.

Our most important expectations developed during early childhood and their roots are embedded in the subconscious mind…it is also important to know that the vast majority of our expectations are unnecessary and only serve as a way of achieving an artficial social status…therefore the question is how can we let go an expectation when we become aware of it but do not have a conscious choice…perhaps there are many approaches but my particular preference is by Mantra meditation or in the West,it could be considered “word suggestion”.

Both techniques attempt to send a message to our subconscious mind through repetitive word use over an extended period of time…learning a skill such as driving a car will eventually result in our ability to drive largely unconsciously, and so it is also true that repeating special words will find its way to the source of our subconscious expectations.

The words which have special meaning to me are “let go”and “surrender“… for many years, I have used both these words in quiet reflection when confronted with a painful and failed expectation…if I persist and patiently wait the chances are good the expectation will vanish and no longer be a problem to me.

“We never live; we are always in the expectation of living.” ~ Voltaire

“I hope for nothing. I fear nothing. I am free.”~ Nikos Kazantzakis

“When one’s expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have” ~Stephen Hawking

“Oft expectation fails, and most oft where most it promises; and oft it hits where hope is coldest; and despair most sits” ~ William Shakespeare